The Host

One underlying theme that i found while reading the host is to just let things go. In the story, the character Kyle just can't get over the fact that Wanderer has become apart of their society in the caves and to some ( Jeb, Jamie, Ian) she's become a beloved friend, family member, and potential love. Kyle anger and hatred for Wanderer (a.k.a. Wanda) consumed him to the point where he attacked her with the attentions of killing her; this little act cost him the love and respect of his younger brother Ian who is falling in love with Wanda. This part of the story is connected to real life in the sense that people so seldomly just let the past go. More often than not, humans tend to hold grudges for so long(sometimes even forgetting the original reason why they were mad-Family Feuds come to mind) when they should have simply let the situation leave their mind and hearts long ago. Holding a hatred or even a lider anger for so long is bad for the soul- as proven by the movie the Grudge. It takes so much energy and time away from the individual keeping the grudge; while the person they are mad at is continuing on with their lives happily, here they are spending time that could be put on achieving their goals and happines, being mad. Of course it is not the easiest thing to do, to simply let the feelings of anger, betrayal, humilation, and grief go (feelings i assume contribute to the emotional make-up of the grude), and certanily you'll always rember the event somewhat making total reconciliation almost impossible but letting it go is the best thing to do for you physical, mental, and emotional well being.

Do you think Kyle's reasons for hating Wanda are justified?